Happiness is not a race. Being happy is not a competition. Yes, it is great being happy. Yes, sometimes you must fake it until you make it. But shaming those who are not your perception of happy is like telling someone you don’t understand why their shoes don’t fit because yours fit just fine.
Life is not about being happy all of the time. Yet now we have all of this social media showing us the “daily lives” of people who are in bliss every second of every day. #blessed #thankful #joy #feelingshamers.
What you may or may not understand is that this, the consistant images or messages you see are what the person wants you to see. Covering up all of the flaws (litter-boxing) is nicer than a consistent pessimistic attitude but both are equal fallacies.
I have sought long and hard for the magic solution for happiness. You meet these people who are rays of sunshine all of the time. I always ask- “How do you stay so happy? Are you ever sad? What do you do when you are angry?” It is like a running poll. The answers are all pretty much the same. No one is happy all of the time.
Happiness is not a race or a list of what to do and not to do. It is a feeling. There is no universal recipe.
“They say there is no light without dark, no good without evil, no male without female, no right without wrong. That nothing can exist if it’s direct opposite does not also exist.”
― Laurell K. Hamilton,
Life is a series of ups and downs. Take them in stride and search for content.
Eternal happiness is not obtainable, for that would just be nothingness, flat-lined, happiness would no longer exist.
Do not let this be another form of bigotry, intolerance and divide.
Hack three: Happiness is something in you. It is deeply personal. Everyones road is different. Accept your path. Not everything is perfect nor can be defined. Sometimes you will have other emotions, that’s ok. Try not to dance in the dark too long. Balance. There is balance in everything.
Do not let anyone else make you feel bad about your journey because they cannot even identify that you wear different shoes…